Author name: Mia L

Calm Feels Strange at First

When you’ve been in survival mode for a while, calm can feel unfamiliar. You might even question it. “Why am I not reacting?”“Why am I not emotional?”“Am I becoming cold?” But calm isn’t cold. Calm is regulated. It’s the feeling of standing without bracing. It’s not that problems disappear. It’s that they don’t control your […]

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A Quiet Return

The past week have been quiet. Not in a dramatic, transformative way. Just quiet. I went to work. I came home. I read. I slept. I repeated the same rhythm six days a week. Nothing remarkable happened. No breakthroughs. No sudden clarity about life. Just stability. A few months ago, I would have panicked at

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Stuck in Uncertainty

It has been five months of living in uncertainty. Recently, I realised this phase isn’t ending anytime soon—and that realisation hit hard. At first, it hurt. Then it numbed me. The past few weeks have felt strangely emotionless. I wake up tired, even after dreaming all night. I feel restless throughout the day, yet I

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Rest, Don’t Rush

When people talk about comforting others, it often comes down to two types of responses: those who want to fix things, and those who want to hold space. Both come from care, but they feel very different when you’re in pain. When I’m sad or overwhelmed, I don’t need someone to mix everything up and

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Letting Go

I recently got out of a relationship — one I genuinely believed had the potential to last. Even though we only knew each other for just over a year, I could already picture what life might look like with him in the future. I was comfortable being fully myself around him. He reminded me what

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